Tina VanSteenbergen

TOPICS

  • Women's Relationships

  • Empowerment

  • Recruitment 

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about Tina

Tina speaks to students around North America about how to bring the heart back to their leadership styles and the voices back to women in their organizations and relationships. On a personal note, Tina went to Hamline University for her undergrad and then attended Illinois State University for her Master’s. She is also a proud Minnesotan.  Tina currently lives in Brooklyn, NY, with her obnoxiously adorable puppy, Sherri. 

 programs

It Ain't About You, Boo!

Recruitment is such an exciting time of year for our chapters! We get to get our sisters and our spaces ready to sell ourselves to PNMs, to show them why we are the best choice for their sorority future. We practice our conversations, our rotations, our Ritual, all to show them all the great things our chapter has to offer. It is so easy to feel like recruitment is about us; our chapter, our members, our story. But when we really look at the purpose of recruitment, it ain’t about you, boo!

 

Well then wait, who is it about??

 

The PNMs!!

 

These women are undergoing the madness of recruitment for one reason: to find a place to belong. What if every thing we did to prepare for recruitment, we did with her in mind? If we focused our conversations on how we can help her feel comfortable? Prepare our spaces so she feels welcomed? Told her stories of our sorority experience, so she can see herself in our sisterhood? Recruitment doesn’t have to feel selfish or inauthentic. Your chapter or community’s potential for a purpose-driven recruitment begins and ends with our focus on creating the best possible experiences for our PNMs.

Learning Outcomes

Audience members will...
  • Reconnect with their experience as potential new members, engaging in the empathy needed to connect with incoming potential new members. 
  • Demonstrate the skills needed to facilitate selfless recruitment conversations focused on the benefit of the potential new member. 
  • Articulate the purpose and importance of focusing our recruitment efforts on the potential new member, rather than the chapter. 
Ideal Audiences
  • Women's Recruitment 
  • Sorority Life
Formats
  • Keynote
  • Workshop

Better Friends, Better Sisters, Better Women 

 

Joining a sorority changes our lives. We use terms like “sisterhood” and “values” to describe what sorority brings to and teaches us. But, sorority changes us in one universal way: friendship. 

 

Specifically, friendship with women. 

 

Before sorority, Tina was unaware of the power of true, authentic friendship with other women - finding female friends was never a priority. She soon learned, at its core, friendship is what sorority is all about. 

 

And yet, we all know of girl-on-girl drama that’s taking place in our chapters and communities. We talk behind each others’ backs. We choose jealousy and resentment over support and love. We compete instead of congratulate. 

 

One of the real challenges in sorority leadership is acknowledging some of our less-productive impulses and tactics and using our leadership talents to steer our way to better relationships and better solutions. Tina teaches the audience how to unpack the true power of female friendships, and learn to be better friends, but better sisters, and better women.

Learning Outcomes

Audience members will...
  • Be able to identify the benefits of strong female friendships
  • Examine the role sorority can play in helping establish and maintain these relationships
  • Articulate the importance of healthy conflict management practices
  • Be prepared to facilitate discussions and programs within their chapters, councils and communities aimed at developing healthy, female bonds
Ideal Audiences
  • Sorority Life
  • Leadership Development
  • Women's Empowerment
Formats
  • Keynote
  • Workshop
  • Half-Day Retreat

Be Bold, Be Fierce, Be Sisters: Confidence is a Team Sport

 

Let’s call it what it is: 

 

Being women in college is hard work! 

 

While we stretch ourselves thin to meet (exceed) the expectations of ourselves and everyone else, we also have upon us an additional pressure: doing it all with empowerment, with confidence. Confidence is an important and lofty goal, but not one that comes with an easy on/off switch. On the contrary, it can take a lot of work and resilience to feel truly empowered. In this session, we’ll come together as women dealing with real life to find and build authentic confidence. Through powerful conversations, helpful practical exercises and pure sisterhood, we will put in the work of building true confidence—because it’s surely work worth doing. 

Learning Outcomes

Audience members will...
  • Experience and replicate practical confidence-building activities that involve multiple women coming together to build one another up and discover the team-sport nature of building authentic confidence.
  • Articulate that the true power in womanhood lies in what we can accomplish together; confidence is a team sport. 
Ideal Audiences
  • Sorority Life
  • Women's Empowerment
Formats
  • Keynote
  • Workshop

More Than a Feeling: Leading with Empathy

 

Have you ever been irritated with a resident who missed another meeting? Upset with someone in your group project who didn’t do their part? Frustrated with students who join the organization but don’t pay their dues? 

 

Leading peers in organizations and on-campus jobs can be challenging, especially when they don’t do what we expect of them. But what about missing a meeting because your abusive partner wouldn’t let you leave? Or missing schoolwork because you’re working three jobs to afford college? Or not being able to pay those minimal dues, because you’re buying food for your family instead?

 

In order to understand the real experiences of our fellow students, we need one thing: empathy. 

 

As leaders, it is expected that we get the payments in and budgets balanced, run effective meetings and events, and encourage academic performance in our groups. We have a job to do. But what about taking care of them while we take care of business? Empathy is the key. 

 

As a leader in college, this is where Tina failed most often—too focused on checklists, emails, meeting agendas, and attendance - she often forgot that each of the students she was leading was a person first. To empathize, to understand, and share the feelings of other people is to lead effectively. Bringing the heart back to leadership, as cheesy as that may sound, may just be the key to your success.

Learning Outcomes

Audience members will...
  • Be able to articulate the importance of leading with love, connection, and empathy
  • Identify the behaviors of leaders who use empathy effectively
  • Explore strategies to infuse empathy into their own leadership styles
Ideal Audiences
  • Leadership Development

  • Fraternity and Sorority Life

  • Mental Health Awareness

  • Residence Life

  • Student Government

  • Staff Development

Formats
  • Keynote
  • Workshop
  • Half-Day Retreat

Shut Up, You're Not Fat!

 

"Shut up, you're not fat!"

 

This is the essence of body image conversations happening in sororities all over the country. Our women stress over their appearances, constantly comparing themselves to the Instagram models that flood their social media feeds. They stress over how they’ll look in formal dresses and spring break photos, trading quick “dieting” tips to drop pounds before these events. 91% of women in college are on a diet right now.

 

Providing our women a space to discuss body image and its issues is not only relevant, but needed. In this session, we’ll discuss recent research and best practices for advisors to help our women to discuss their bodies, outside of simply telling one another “Shut up, you’re not fat.”

Learning Outcomes

Audience members will...
  • Be able to have open, honest, and healthy discussions about their body image.
  • Demonstrate the use of body-neutral and body-positive language not only with themselves, but in their conversations and relationships with collegiate sorority women in order to positively influence their relationship with their bodies.
Ideal Audiences
  • Body Image Awareness

  • Fraternity and Sorority Life 

  • Women’s Groups

  • Health and Wellness Programming

Formats
  • Keynote
  • Half-Day Retreat
  • Full-Day Retreat
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